Marriage is a Mathematical problem waiting to be solved
Marriage is not a bed of roses.just like life we get what we make out of it. It is a 50/50 game. Any thing less than that will create a situation of endurance.
Marriage is a mathematical problem waiting to be solved.Both sides may be coming from different Nations, culture,traditons and beliefs, with opposite character,habits and personality traits which sometimes start manifesting when the couples start living together. They must work together to strengthen and uphold the relationship.
There are simple rules that binds and keeps your relationship rockin' all year long.
1. Do good things together and not just around the holidays.some daddies are seasonal daddies, they appear only on festival times and disappears there afterwards.
Everyone feels generous around the holidays, and in December,kitchens get so many volunteers that they have to turn helpers away. These organizations need volunteers desperately at other times of the year,this include daddy, so you and your sweetie will make a huge impact if you skip the seasonal Christmas and Easter goodness and volunteer year-round instead. If you're a December lover, do your good deeds on the 25th of each month not only in December It's the gift that keeps on giving!
2. Eat mindfully.
When you're couples, it's easy to cozy up on the couch with your phone and shovel down fast foods while watching movies. Not only does this habit pack on the pounds, but it skips the fun and intimacy that can come with preparing and sharing food, too. Choose healthy recipes, and make your (home) date nights special by cooking and eating together. Better than an overpriced restaurant food any day!This is should be done as regularly as possible.
3. Sweat together.
If you're part of a tubby tandem and serious about ditching extra pounds, enlist your partner as a workout buddy. If you're not overweight, exercising with your partner is still a great way to improve your overall health.
4. Make sexytime a priority.
When we're busy, sex can get lost in the shuffle, but it's too good for your relationship, your health and your mood to skip. Make time to reconnect with your partner in the sack by scheduling weekends "staycation." If the sex has become lackluster, put some energy into figuring out how to make it exciting again. Try a new position, or just a straight-up change of venue (kitchen)...instead of bedroom, (apology to some of readers).... play a love song that will bring back memories of the good old days.
5. Stop squabbling.
If you have a serious beef, score to settle with your partner, it's important to bring it up, but try to avoid petty arguments and insults. One fight isn't a big deal, but over time, small backbiting comments can erode the foundation of your relationship. Pick your battles. When you sense a fight on the horizon, try to calm yourself momentarily and ask "Is this worth disturbing the peace for?"
6. Strive for emotional honesty.
Even the bluntest among us have avoided explaining feelings to a lover at one time or another. It's hard to share with your partner (especially if you're experiencing a thorny, irrational emotion like jealousy), but it's important that you keep your mate in the loop so that he can act appropriately. Saying "I feel" instead of "you made me feel" will help you and your partner stay focused on resolving the negative emotions without it turning into a blamefest.
7. Stop multitasking with technology.
When you're spending time with your sweetie, banish buzzes, beeps and chirps from your computer and phone. Don't scroll through your texts while your partner is talking to you or message a friend while you're supposed to be planning dinner. You may think you can do two things at once, but when you do, you're sending your partner the message that they're not worth your full attention. If you both have things you must do on your phone or computer, set time aside to accomplish the tasks, and then move on with your evening (and don't even think of counting your tech time together as a "date").
8. Treat your partner as well as you treat your friends.
It's easy to take your romantic partner for granted, and sometimes we don't treat our "lovers"as well as we should.
Like family, we assume that they're in it for the long and when we're stressed, our romantic relationships that take extra abuse. Ask yourself if you say or do things to your partner that you wouldn't do to your best friend, and if you discover that you do, adjust your behavior accordingly. And, remember, it takes practice to change a habit; don't give up if he or she don't change overnight.
9. Listen.
Don't nod automatically as he or she talks. Don't wait for your turn to speak. Don't do the dishes while he tells you about his day. Sit down, look him in the eye, pay attention to what he says and ask follow-up questions. This is one of the best things you can do for your relationship. Active listening is a skill that you have to learn with time and effort, but it's incredibly important. Work at it.
10. Criticize less than you praise.
When you spend a lot of time with someone, it becomes easy to overlook the things that are great about them. Instead of dwelling on his or her bad habits, remind yourself of the reasons you fell for him or her in the first place. Then remind him! Couples who have been together for a long time tend to forget to compliment one another. Try to dish out three compliments for every criticism, and don't be shocked if its mirrors your actions. Shared appreciation breeds kindness and consideration, and what couple couldn't use more of that?
11. Break a bad habit together.
If you and your man share a habit that's less-than-great for you, help one another break it instead of encouraging the behavior within your relationship. Instead of nudging one another outside for smoke breaks, make a pact to limit yourselves to a certain number of cigarettes a day. If you drink too much together, make a two-drink rule and try to stick to it.
12. Play together.
One of the worst things about being an adult is the total lack of juice boxes, naptime and recess. (What's up with that?)
Thankfully, the dullness of the workday world doesn't have to extend to your personal life. Infuse your partnership with a sense of play. Have pillow fights, talk in funny voices, and draw mustaches on the models in your ladymagazine. Do something creative together — take a guitar class, throw pottery, learn to roll sushi — whatever. Stepping outside of your routine can bring you and your partner closer, and it'll ensure that things never get boring between you.play cards, scrabble or even ludo together.
Your relationship will grow stronger with time if you follow these simple but important rules.
