Finding Friends and Keeping Friends
I was born to love you....says a famous song.In fact most songs are about love... It is our greatest need.Babies will not grow well if no one give them love.Adults likewise need love and affection to keep us healthy and mentally stable.It is a fact that love and affection shown by friends and loved ones makes us live longer.
Some people don't know how to keep friends,they keep on changing friends now and then due to one reason or the other. Trust and honesty is important in friendship.
I was introduced to an African British lady some 20 years ago while we were teenagers till today we are good friends.she is now married but I tell you just a phone call telling them am spending the weekend, I'll be welcomed with open arms and vise Verser .She shows more concern about my welfare and progress than my own family.That is a real friend.
There are ways to find and keep good friends weather they are friends at schools or work,boyfriends or girlfriends or husbands or wife.
1.Put other people first.If you only want to get and not give the friendship will not last.
2.Take time to talk about important things,how you really feel,many people kill themselves, relationship and marriages end because people do not talk about their real feelings to others.
3.Take time to be together and do things together.
4.Learn to listen.Try to understand what the other person really thinks and feel.
5.Show friendship by asking questions in a gentle and respectable manner.ask curious questions about their life etc,ask questions such as what would I do to you that you will not forgive me.
6.Do not have just one special friend,ask others into the circle of friends.
9.Be the first one to say am sorry. Learn to forgive and then forget about the negative things people have said and done to you on that same day it happens.
10.Look at the good things in life of other people and not the things that makes you cross.Remember that there are things in your life which other people may not like.
11.Do not choose friends because of the way they look or because of material things and money.
What are they really like inside? Watch how they treat others, especially people who are below their statues. Do they laugh,mock and make fun of others.__the attitude of their parents, brother, sisters,because that is the same way you will be treated sooner or later.
12.If your friend tells you something in secret, do not reveal it to others or say bad things about that person just because you want a favour from your friend, it is very bad.
It is very easy to loss the trust of someone esle and very hard to get it back.
13.Learn to make friends with peoples from different groups,tribes and colours. Every one has something unique to offer.we are all Gods creation designed in a special way for a special purpose.Its fun and more interesting to have this type of friends.
If you are in schools or higher institution you will find some students always sitting or walking alone, they may not like it that way,it could be they are being bullied,facing problems at home or marital problems of his or her parents is affecting them.Make friends with them and ask questions if they are willing to talk the problem is half solved.
14. If you are living in a developed country there are homes for elderly people you can visit spend an our or two with them,make them happy and appreciated. They need not be your relative.make a positive difference in someone's life today.. A friend in need is a friend indeed.
