SEVEN REASONS WHY HE HAS NOT PROPOSED
Times without number,I keep hearing complaints from single ladies complaining about their boyfriends/ fiance unwillingness to make the relationship permanent by proposing.
So ladies after showing a guy love and affection,committing your time,efforts and resources to the relationship,he is still unwilling to put a ring on it.Why?
Some of the reasons are found below;
1. He is not ready for marriage.
Marriage is a big commitment that should be entered into when one is physically,emotionally and financially ready for it.The financial situation in the present day Nigerian society has led to many putting off marriages as long as possible.However ,the unwillingness to commit to marriage does not mean that people are willing to be celibate.
Going into a relationship with no intention of making any form of commitment has become a way of life
Therein lies the conundrum; ladies ,the guy you are with might tell you he loves you so you can continue to date him and give your body to him even though he has no intention of marrying you.He might only want sex not marriage so it's up to you.
2. You are not his type.
Many men have an idea of the kind of woman they want to settle down with,but until they find or meet that woman they will keep on holding on to you. When Miss right finally appears...you miss available Will be shown the way out. with the most flimsy excuses........So it is in your own interest as a lady to save yourself for the man who Will marry you.
3.He is in love with someone else.
You might want to ask why he would date you if he already has someone he loves.yes most men like variety,others may be in long distance relationship,for some others,the object of their affection might not be making her body available....so he has to find an alternative for sex.
4.He dislike your attitude.
A relationship is an opportunity to study a person's character at close quarters,not to sample each other's body.When a man decideds to settle down,he is not likely to make an emotional decision and marry you only because he loves you. Most men will study the lady,if not do some back ground checkup of her character.This is why the character of a lady is of utmost importance.Some ladies simply lack manners or as we say it here in Nigeria...."Have no home training" Some have rubbished themselves by making themselves the village mattress in the name of love,or looking for a husband,so when Mr right comes along it becomes a problem.....
For some others they have a reputation of being rude, dirty and lazy or what have you.....sometimes until you start living together you start noticing these bad habits.
5.Your beliefs systems are different.
A lot has been said about inter religious marriage, not many men are not willing to marry outside their faith....the word of God also frowns at it..but some go ahead with it...for example my immediate older sister got married to a Muslim we are Christian family...since that was her choice nobody objected to it based on religion..He accompanies her to to church for social functions,it has been ok so far.
if the lady is also ready to adapt to the man religion so be it.....but she must not be deceptive about it.
Men want order in their homes,and having a wife of the same faith makes it easier to raise children who Will toe the family line.
6.You don't have a means of livelihood.
Many ladies want to marry men who are established in careers or business,yet they have no visible means of livelihood of their own....
Ladies the syllabus has changed ....go to school or learn a trade,and find a job.
It will not only provide your personal needs but also give you some self respect.Many men no longer want women who will be liabilities,while some even require that the wife contributes something to the upkeep of the home.Having said that being fully engaged in some sort of job will make it easier to say no to predators that are willing to pay for your favours without offering a future.(Marriage)
7.She likes money too much.
Men often avoid women who are extravagant and make unnecessary demands.Men often complain severely about women love for money........this is reason why girls like dating married men because many of them are financially stable.Some do not mind being a second wife,rather than marry a struggling young man.
The truth is that no one wants to be love d for their possessions,we all crave to be loved for who we are,not what we have. The economic situations in the country has made things worse....Some ladies have become money reminded so that they put more emphasis on the size of the man's bank account than the content of his character or source of income.
Unfortunately,they will have enough time to regret their choices.
So ladies after showing a guy love and affection,committing your time,efforts and resources to the relationship,he is still unwilling to put a ring on it.Why?
Some of the reasons are found below;
1. He is not ready for marriage.
Marriage is a big commitment that should be entered into when one is physically,emotionally and financially ready for it.The financial situation in the present day Nigerian society has led to many putting off marriages as long as possible.However ,the unwillingness to commit to marriage does not mean that people are willing to be celibate.
Going into a relationship with no intention of making any form of commitment has become a way of life
Therein lies the conundrum; ladies ,the guy you are with might tell you he loves you so you can continue to date him and give your body to him even though he has no intention of marrying you.He might only want sex not marriage so it's up to you.
2. You are not his type.
Many men have an idea of the kind of woman they want to settle down with,but until they find or meet that woman they will keep on holding on to you. When Miss right finally appears...you miss available Will be shown the way out. with the most flimsy excuses........So it is in your own interest as a lady to save yourself for the man who Will marry you.
3.He is in love with someone else.
You might want to ask why he would date you if he already has someone he loves.yes most men like variety,others may be in long distance relationship,for some others,the object of their affection might not be making her body available....so he has to find an alternative for sex.
4.He dislike your attitude.
A relationship is an opportunity to study a person's character at close quarters,not to sample each other's body.When a man decideds to settle down,he is not likely to make an emotional decision and marry you only because he loves you. Most men will study the lady,if not do some back ground checkup of her character.This is why the character of a lady is of utmost importance.Some ladies simply lack manners or as we say it here in Nigeria...."Have no home training" Some have rubbished themselves by making themselves the village mattress in the name of love,or looking for a husband,so when Mr right comes along it becomes a problem.....
For some others they have a reputation of being rude, dirty and lazy or what have you.....sometimes until you start living together you start noticing these bad habits.
5.Your beliefs systems are different.
A lot has been said about inter religious marriage, not many men are not willing to marry outside their faith....the word of God also frowns at it..but some go ahead with it...for example my immediate older sister got married to a Muslim we are Christian family...since that was her choice nobody objected to it based on religion..He accompanies her to to church for social functions,it has been ok so far.
if the lady is also ready to adapt to the man religion so be it.....but she must not be deceptive about it.
Men want order in their homes,and having a wife of the same faith makes it easier to raise children who Will toe the family line.
6.You don't have a means of livelihood.
Many ladies want to marry men who are established in careers or business,yet they have no visible means of livelihood of their own....
Ladies the syllabus has changed ....go to school or learn a trade,and find a job.
It will not only provide your personal needs but also give you some self respect.Many men no longer want women who will be liabilities,while some even require that the wife contributes something to the upkeep of the home.Having said that being fully engaged in some sort of job will make it easier to say no to predators that are willing to pay for your favours without offering a future.(Marriage)
7.She likes money too much.
Men often avoid women who are extravagant and make unnecessary demands.Men often complain severely about women love for money........this is reason why girls like dating married men because many of them are financially stable.Some do not mind being a second wife,rather than marry a struggling young man.
The truth is that no one wants to be love d for their possessions,we all crave to be loved for who we are,not what we have. The economic situations in the country has made things worse....Some ladies have become money reminded so that they put more emphasis on the size of the man's bank account than the content of his character or source of income.
Unfortunately,they will have enough time to regret their choices.
