Things you should know about yourself before getting into a relationship
There is only one happiness in this life to love and be loved..
When you love someone, you learn all the little details… but when we’re single, we often neglect this same step. It’s time to get to know yourself.
Relationships are our favorite double-edged sword. Spending a sizable chunk of your life with a significant other can be one of your most rewarding, exhilarating experiences. But when (or if) that relationship turns sour, nothing is more miserable. And as soon as we get out of
a bad relationship , only a few weeks pass until we’re on to the next one.
We may refuse to believe it, but many of us think the best way to solve our problems is to find someone new to love.
It can be obvious or subtle. Our moods improve when someone new walks into our lives. Many of our daily actions become motivation to win the newbie’s heart. We think things will be different with them. Things will be better. Yet further down the line, the breakup happens again.
The truth is, this cycle of relationship is just another pattern that we as humans are drawn into.
Look back on your relationships and assess the damage. As much as it may hurt to reflect on the past, analyzing your relationships can help you in the future.
Do you know yourself,
Do you love yourself.
What are you expecting or looking for in the relationship you are about to go into.
Are you ready for a relationship?
‘All my friends are dating’ isn’t a good enough reason for you to get into a relationship. Also, you may want to consider taking a break if you are just coming out of a long or emotional relationship. It is imperative that you be physically, emotionally and mentally ready to start a new relationship.
What are you looking for in a relationship?
You may be looking to keep things causal, which is fine. Or, you may be looking for something that goes all the way, which is okay too. You need to know what you are looking for in a relationship and what your expectations are from it.
Deal breakers, if any
There are a few things we are unwilling to compromise on. For example, dating a smoker may be a no-no for some or wanting kids in the future may be important to others. That way, you enter a relationship without giving up on your wants and needs.yes because the western lifestyle is gradually creeping into our society.
Your personality type,religion,strengths and weaknesses.......
Are you an introvert or an extrovert? What is your attachment style? Are you emotionally insecure or headstrong? Knowing your personality type as well as identifying your strengths and weaknesses gives your relationship a chance of being healthier, since you know what issues might surface.
Your views on sex
You may have certain preferences in bed.No sex type or oral sex. You may have certain boundaries too. Knowing what they are will make it easier for you and the guy to broach the subject in a free and frank manner, whenever it comes up.
What you are ready to compromise on
Just like you have a list of deal breakers that you aren’t willing to budge on, it is equally important to have a list of issues you are willing to compromise on. If you are unwilling to compromise on anything, it could mean that you are just not ready for a relationship,because your second half may just be the worse,the opposite of you.